The “easy” part of weight loss is trying to stick to a diet.
It’s “easy” to calculate how many pounds you will lose (or should lose) if you restrict 3,500 calories over and over again.
It’s “easy” to assume that calorie deprivation will lead to fat loss.
It’s “easy” to abandon yourself through dieting and restricting and punishing and depriving.
It’s easier, honestly, to do all those things than face the discomfort that you’re trying to avoid by overeating.
So what’s the hard part?
The hard part is choosing NOT to diet.
The hard part is to acknowledge, after many years of trying, that dieting was strenuous, wasted effort and give it all up for good (or at least 6 months).
The hard part is listening to your body even though sometimes it wants what your mind has labeled as ‘bad.’
The hard part is stopping once you’re full even though you want to keep going.
The hard part is feeling those difficult feelings that make you not want to stop in the first place.
The hard part is staying with yourself, even when you mess up.
Weight Loss Is Simply Hard
It’s not rocket science. It’s just really freaking hard.
But you over-complicate it by beating around the bush with dieting and deprivation.
Struggling with weight loss is caused – at the very root – by a broken relationship with yourself. And dieting doesn’t fix that. It only makes the problem worse.
Instead of dieting, you need to dig down into the root of the matter and heal your broken relationship with yourself.
You can try and try and try to address your weight simply through dieting, but nothing will budge (long-term) unless you address the root of the matter.
The problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.
All that dieting and shaming and deprivation created a disconnect that needs to be healed before weight loss can occur.
And this healing takes practice…
…It takes practice to feel your pain and discomfort instead of numbing it with food.
…It takes practice to eat what your body wants instead of what your mind says is okay.
…It takes practice to stay with yourself by NOT dieting instead of abandoning yourself by restricting.
And hey, even the really freaking hard things get easier with practice.
So accept that weight loss is supposed to be hard, and start your practice. Today.