If you’re ready to understand why diets don’t work, then heellll yeah! That open-mindedness means you’re ready to lose weight the psycho-spiritual way.
Being open to the idea that diets do nothing but fuck you up is a critical ‘breaking point’ on your weight loss journey.
Because it means that you’re willing to look beyond the surface-level problem of food and address something much deeper: your psychology.
My psycho-spiritual approach to weight loss has nothing to do with food and everything to do with the psychological reasons why you overeat in the first place.
So instead of focusing on food, we’re going to look at how diets break your self-trust and why this sabotages your weight loss.
Then I’ll give you an exercise to start building your self-trust again.
TL;DR? Here’s a 3 minute video that explains it all:
Is Your Self-Trust Broken?
If you’re a yo-yo dieter, binge eater, night eater, or have any sort of calculated/uncontrollable behavior with food, you likely have broken self-trust.
It starts when you misguidedly create a list of foods you can/can’t eat and times that you’re allowed eat them – completely forgetting that your body already has all the wisdom it needs to maintain its natural weight.
Eventually, self-sabotage starts to happen again and again and again.
How Self-Sabotage Happens
For example, sometimes eating exactly what appeals to you means eating a kale salad at 12pm. Other times it means eating a couple Oreos at 8:30pm.
But anyone who’s trying to lose weight will freak out at the idea of eating a couple Oreos at 8:30pm. They argue, “Oh hell no!!! I’m on a diet!!! I can’t do that!!!”
But if you have broken self-trust, here’s what happens instead:
You try to resist the cookies and white knuckle your cravings. By 10:30pm, as you’re settling into bed, your stomach begs for food.
At this point, you’re probably in starvation mode (cuz you’ve been dieting) and your willpower is no match for your brain’s biological drive to sustain your life.
So, unable to control yourself, you get up, head into the kitchen, and devour the entire box of Oreos. Because, fuck it, right? You already broke your diet. Why stop at just two?
Trusting Yourself to Stop Dieting
This is why dieting doesn’t work.
It causes you to self-sabotage and eat way more than you would have if you listened to your body in the first place. (Think 90 calories for 2 Oreos vs 2,025 calories for the whole box.)
Dieting pushes you into your mind. Intuitive eating puts you back in your body.
Your body knows exactly what it needs. And when you learn how to trust your body and eat intuitively – that’s how you achieve lasting weight loss.
So, stop dieting. Give up the rules and just eat intuitively. It will always be a better approach to weight loss than dieting.
Intuitive eating can be boiled down into 3 basic steps:
- Eat when you’re hungry
- Eat exactly what appeals to you
- Stop when you’re full
If you listen to your body this way, you’re guaranteed to achieve your natural weight. But although it’s simple, it’s REALLY FUCKING HARD, especially if you don’t trust yourself yet.
I know from personal experience that “giving up control” by choosing not to diet can be terrifying. Trust me, I was scared out of my mind when I decided to give up dieting forever.
But it was the best decision I ever made, and I found that developing self-trust helped make the transition much easier.
So here’s an exercise to help develop your self-trust:
Exercise: Self-Trust Affirmations
Every single morning when you’re in front of the bathroom mirror, I want you to gaze straight into your eyes and say, “I trust myself,” at least 10 times.
Do this every single morning. Consistency and repetition are critical for rewiring new thought loops in your brain.
If you want to really break ground with your weight loss, then say, “I trust myself,” all day long.
Say it to yourself when you’re sitting in your car, walking into the grocery store, or twiddling your thumbs in a company meeting.
Say it in your head or say it out loud. Doesn’t matter. Just say it A LOT and you’ll start to rewire your brain and develop more self-trust.
In time, you’ll find that it’s much easier to eat intuitively and trust your body’s wisdom.
Why Diets Don’t Work in One Really Long Sentence
Diets don’t work because they teach you to stop listening to your body, which is actually the key to weight loss, so stop dieting and try intuitive eating instead.