Weight Loss + Personal Development
Perfectionism is exhausting.
Constantly thinking and planning ahead, which perfection requires, leads to stress and anxiety. So why do we bother? Why torture ourselves?
We do it to look good. We please and perfect to (try to) maintain a pristine reputation; figuring that if we hide our flaws, we can avoid pain.
But what if perfection protection is actually keeping us small, as a consequence, creating the very pain that we’re trying to avoid?
Getting recognition always feels good.
When we do something well, it’s always nice to receive feedback that confirms it. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Work hard, feel love hard. Seems reasonable enough.
However, when you feel like you’re not getting the recognition you deserve, it’s always a bad idea to go looking for validation from other people.
You can’t control other people. But you can control yourself.
You are the most reliable source of approval and validation in your world, so why not try looking there for the recognition you desire?
See if you can relate to this scenario…
You’ve been eating healthy all week and you’re feeling on top of your game. You’ve stuck to the plan and you can see results just around the corner.
Then, you binge. You throw away a whole week’s worth of effort in one hour of fog eating and the self-loathing begins. You were SO good and you threw it all away in one fell swoop. Might as well keep going and start over tomorrow. Or Monday.
This is what self-sabotage looks like, and it’s also the definition of hell. I spent over a decade in hell and it’s frustrating, to say the least. If you’ve been there too, I toootally feel your pain.
To put an end to the pattern, you need to stop looking at WHAT you’re eating and start looking at WHY. This requires you to dig deep into your beliefs. Deeper than you’d think.
To help you figure out your WHY, I’ll share the best way I know to overcome self-sabotage — starting with a personal story.